Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need to be a member?

Yes, everyone must be a member because The Key is a private club and is able to operate under those rules. 

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How much does it cost to be a member?

Membership is included in the purchase of your ticket. There is NO ADDITIONAL COST TO BE A MEMBER.

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How do I become a member?

When you arrive at an event, you will fill out a form and officially become a member. 

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Where is The Key?

The Key is located about 5 minutes west of downtwon Milwaukee. While it would be so easy to just put the address here, we feel that it is best that the actual address is given only to people who hare purchased a ticket or RSVPed to an event. When you do that on the website, you get two emails. One of them is a "here is your ticket" email. The other one is a confirmation. In that email, you get the address. You probably got it. It might be in your spam. It usually comes as "Do not reply." 

 

Where do I park?

There is street parking. Driveway parking is reserved for overnight guests. Please do not park in the driveway unless you have advanced permission. 

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What time should I arrive?

Feel free to be "fashionably late," but realize that most people arrive within 30 minutes of an event starting. The first hour of events is usually the time people use to socialize and get to know each other. If you miss that, you might miss the opportunity to make connections that may impact the rest of your evening.

 

How late is too late to arrive?

The key has a staff member posted at the door for two and a half hours after the start of the event. If you are going to be later than that, please email or text The Key so that we see if we can accommodate you. 

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What is the age range of guests?

We have people ages 21 to 85, though most guests tend to be in their 30's and 40's. 

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How many people will there be at a party?

That honestly depends on the type of party, if there is another party or event on the same night, if it's snowing, etc. Generally there is between 50 and 75 people at a party. Some parties have had more than 100. If you show up, there will be one more. :)

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What is the ratio of men to women?

The ratio of men to women is about 60% men and 40% women, though there have been events where it's 50-50 and even some with more women than men. 

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Why do single males have to pay more?

This is a complicated question. First, some of the events have non-gendered pricing. For example, BDSM night is a per person event, meaning that each person gets their own ticket regardless or gender or relationship status. (Like a movie or concert) Swinger parties are different. In an effort to keep the ratio of men to women desirable for all, pricing is set up to encourage couples and ladies to attend. One way to look at it is, all men pay the same price, but the ones that bring a woman with them get a discount. 

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I'm a trans person what ticket do I purchase?

Trans women are women. Trans men are men. You purchase the ticket that aligns with your your gender identity. No one at the door will question if you purchased the correct ticket. 

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What is the ethnic breakdown?

I don't know. We have never asked people for their ethnicities when they register for an event or at the door. Additionally, each event is different. The Key does have an ethnically diverse membership and everyone is welcome.

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What do I wear?

This is one of the most common questions. We usually say, "Wear what makes you feel sexy." For further guidance, think business casual. Dress pants or nice jeans and a button up work well for men. A sexy dress or top works well for women. Fetish wear is also acceptable. Tip: Bring a comfortable set of clothes to change into at the end of the night. It is never fun to put back on a body stocking or corset at 1 am. 

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Is it BYOB?

Yes. The Key does not have a liquor license (and does not want one). Soda is provided. If you want to bring alcohol there are two refrigerators you can use as well as ice for drinks. Be mindful of the amount of alcohol you consume. If you are overly intoxicated you may be asked to leave. Remember, drunk people can not give consent. 

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What if I just want to watch?

No one is required to participate. Ever. Even if you said that you were going to do something and you change your mind, that is okay. It's totally acceptable to come as a spectator. 

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What if I see someone and I want to play with them?

Just throwing it out there... but you could ask them... 

Seriously, start a conversation and let them know. It's not like walking up to someone in a grocery store and telling them that you'd like to go down on them. The people at events are there for the same thing you are. Shoot your shot. You never know. Tip: When you do ask, be specific. "Do you want to go upstairs?" can mean so many things. A person might hesitate to say yes. They would know if you meant hang out or have sex or anything in between. "Do you want to go upstairs and kiss on the couch?" is much clearer. 

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What if no one wants to play with me?

That is entirely possible and actually likely if it's your first event. While there are many people who enjoy casual spontaneous hook ups, most people attending events like to know the person a bit or know them very well. At your first event, you'll be meeting people... getting to know them. At your second event, people will remember you, talk to you and hopefully plan play either at that event or the next one. The best way to find people to play with is to have conversations with them and be willing to message with them between parties. 

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I don't drink. Is it okay if I smoke?

Smoke as in cigarettes? Yes. There is a balcony on the second floor you can smoke or vape. Marijuana, no. It is illegal in Wisconsin. We do not want to give authorities probable cause to enter our party because a guest is standing on the porch breaking the law. DO NOT BRING DRUGS THAT ARE ILLEGAL IN WISCONSIN TO THE KEY.

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Can I get high before I come?

What you do on your own time is up to you, but there are two things to consider. The first is that if you are too high to give consent, you will be asked to leave. The second one is that the number one complaint that staff gets at the key is, "That person wreaks of pot and they are making the room smell bad."

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What time do the parties really get going?

That depends on the person. Some couples arrive, play and leave within two hours of the party starting. Other couples wait a while. Arriving within an hour of the party starting would be best to ensure you don't miss the "peak play time."

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Is my information confidential?

When you purchase your ticket using Wix, they get your payment information. No member of The Key gets your credit car number or Venmo/Pay Pal, etc information. We do get the name that you put on the form and your email address.  We do not share this information.

 

Do I have to give my real name?

No. You only have to give the name you will give at the door. Keep in mind if you register as "My10incherwantsyou" you are going to have to say that at the door. It might be better to give your first name and a last initial.  You will have to give your legal name when you sign the agreement to the rules at the door. That information is kept confidential.  

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I'm a squirter. What do I do?

The Key has "puppy pads" available for use if you are a light squirter. They are in each room. If you can't find one, please ask a staff member. If you are a heavy squirter please bring a waterproof blanket. You can place this on the sheets and take it with you when you are finished. Bring as many waterproof blankets as you need. 

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What do I need to bring?

You should bring whatever you'd need to play. There are condoms and lube available, but to ensure the brand you prefer and the size you need, it's best to bring your own.  

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I want to go to the rope class, how do I do that?

You would contact Ninjet Kitty at ninjetkitty@gmail.com. This is a private event held at The Key, but not organized by The Key.

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When should I stop playing?

You should stop play about 30 minutes before the event is over. This will give you enough time to get dressed, clean up and say your goodbyes without feeling rushed. 

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The party is over, why aren't some people leaving?

Some people have rented a room for the night and they are staying. Also, often staff and their guest/s do not have the ability to play during the event, so they are waiting for the event to be over to have uninterrupted play time. Be mindful of the clock so that staff who have already waited all night to play don't have to wait even longer. :)

I don't drive. Can I get there?

Absolutely! We are located on the #31 bus line and there is a stop right in front of the house! If you Uber or Lyft, know that it often takes 20 minutes or more to get one, so don't wait until the party ends to call for one. This makes volunteer staff have to stay longer. 

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I would like to volunteer. How would I do that?

OMG! Really??? We love volunteers. We always need people to help with things around The Key. We need yard work, light maintenance, painting, decorating and working events. 

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